Hey, man, have you ever been on a date with a girl and it just went horribly wrong or worse, it went really well, but then she never called you again or she told you there was no connection. That flat out sucks. And chances are you made one of the seven mistakes that I’m about to talk about. And when you stop making these mistakes, not only will you have a lot more successful dates, but you’ll also feel a deeper connection with you. She’ll be more attracted to you and you’ll be more likely to get a second or third date and turn things romantic and intimate a whole lot faster.
A lot of guys set up dates that are justway too formal, they take them to really expensive restaurants trying to impress them. But the reality is that it actually hasthe opposite effect because think about it, anybody can take herto a fancy restaurant. But can anybody be as cool and badass as you? I don’t think so.So impress her with your personality and by who you are as a man, not by the place that you take her. Plus, taking her to dinner is just flat out boring and average be a littlebit more creative than that. Instead, take her to places that you enjoy, places that are fun for you because of it’s memorable. Then she’ll want to goon another date with you. So in that note, movies are out. Instead, take her to a fun bar or do an activity together, whether it’s iceskating or rollerblading or laser tag.
“I have no idea Lazer tag still existed.””Yeah, well, enjoy it before it becomes cool again.” That would actually be a pretty fun date and that’s going to bea lot more memorable. But if you’re an older guy, that sounds a little childish. But think of some other things that you could do with her. Even just going to a cool lounge and getting to know each other over drinks is totally fine and try to find bars and lounges that have a more romantic or even seductive vibe. The lighting and the music is a littlelower versus like a rowdy frat club. Next is dressing sloppy. My dad actually got remarried two years ago and I’ve never seen him happier in his entire life.
But when he showed up to that first date with the woman who’s now his wife, he was wearing crocs, sweat shorts and a t shirt that was about two sizes too big and shewas immediately turned off. But luckily, she’s very open minded and she gave him a chance. But some women will not be so open minded. You don’t want to miss outon the relationship of your dreams just because you don’t know how to dress yourself. First impressions do matter because we make a lot of assumptions about the person just by what they’re wearing, because we don’t know anything else about them at the time. So make sure you start the date on the right foot because you probably put in some effort together on a date with you. You don’t want to sabotage yourself just because you picked out the wrong outfit. The next mistake is asking her where she wants to go. No, no, no. You are the man. You take the lead. Don’t put all that pressure on her that she has to pick the venue.
Women want a man with a plan. So have a plan not just for where you start the date, but also where you gothroughout the date and where you end up, because that’s going to show that you’rea leader and that’s highly attractive when you are taking the lead from the very beginning. So when you’re setting up the date,don’t text or who want to hang out sometime, tell her where to meet you, what time. And I like to even tell her what to wear. I actually always tell women to wear either a dress or a skirt and heels because then she’s going to feel more sexy and sexual and that just starts the date off on the right foot. And quite frankly, I want her to feel that way. Now, I know some of you feminized men out there are thinking, what are you talking about? Women are equal nowadays. They should be asking me out. Not going to happen, bro. A feminine woman.
Those are the kind of women you’re probably attracted to, want a masculine man. That means a man that knows how to take the lead, take control, – not be controlling, but can lead the interaction. Because if you don’t do that, then she’s going to have to step into her masculine energy and take the lead. And that’s going to make her lose all attraction towards you, because then she’s going to see you as a feminine man. So speaking of taking the lead through out the date, that means going to more than one venue, because one venue equals one memory with you. Imagine you’re hanging out with herfor two hours in one coffee shop and you’re talking aboutall these great things. But she really has just one memoryof you at that coffee shop. But instead, what if within those two hours you kept moving around every 30 minutes or so? That would be five different venues.
That’s five experiences and five memories. It’s more like an adventure. And of course, it’s going to be a lot more memorable. And she’s going to feel like she knows you better. She’s going to have a deeper connection with you because you had multiple experiences together. In fact, it’ll actually feel like five dates, like she’s on a fifth date with you by the end of that date. Logically, she knows it’s the first date, but it’ll feel like she knows you so well that you’ve been on five dates together, which, of course,can really speed up the relationship and speed up the intimacy, if that’s what you want. So be the man with the plan and know exactly where you’re going to go. Pick three to five different locations that you can take her throughout the date.
And even if you’re in a new city and you don’t know where to go, for example, when I first moved to San Diego, I went on a date with this girl. I really liked her. And it was. Raining outside, I pick her up and I’m thinking, oh, it’s raining, she’ll probably say, “Hey, let’s just stay in my place and watch a movie.” I’d like this stupid fantasy in my mind. And of course, that didn’t happen. She hops into the car, she says,”OK, where are we going?” And I didn’t even know the city. So I just said, “Well, you know what? I didn’t really have anytime to do the research. I’m new here. So let’s just drive and we’ll figure it out as we go. It’ll be an adventure.” And she goes, “Oh, I like that.” So while we were driving,she actually gave some input. She said, well, there’s a Dave and Buster’s if we go this way and thenthere’s downtown all these bars. If we go that way, I said, “Well,hey, let’s go to Dave and Busters. I like playing video games.”
So she gave me some input,but it was ultimately me who made the final decision and it endedup being an amazing first date. The next mistake that a lot of guysmake is they don’t make the move. And I get it, man.I’ve been there. Everything is going great. And you don’t want to risk anything. You don’t want her to, like, freak out or think you’re, I don’t know, weird or creepy or too forward. So you end up just sitting there,not kissing her even though you want to. And here’s the deal, man. Most feminine women are not going to make the first move. They expect you to do it.
And if things are going great and you know, the mood is kind of set,meaning you’ve taken her to some venues that they have a little bit more intimate vibe, or maybe you’re just walking through the park or whatever and youdon’t go for the kiss? She’s likely to be disappointed and she’sgoing to feel like you’re a weak man, like you just didn’t havethe balls to go for it. Who is she going to go on a second date with? The guy who had the balls to make the move or the guy who is too afraid to make the move? So you think you’re playing it safe by not kissing her, but really you’re sabotaging yourself. So as long as things are going well and you guys obviously like each other, then I recommend somewhere in the middle or towards the end of the date,make your move.
Go for the kiss. Even if it’s not the perfect moment, try to create the moment. In fact, one time Iwas on a date with this girl in Saigon, Vietnam, and the moment is never created itself. I don’t know. It was just a little awkward. She was very shy, but she came back to my place and she was sitting on the couch, but shesat really far away from me. She even put like a pillow between us. So I’m like, well, what do I do? It’s going to be awkward if I try to make a move on her. But I figured, hey, it’s better to be awkward and makethe move than not make the move at all. So I made the move. It was awkward. She didn’t reciprocate right away, but now it kind of set the frame that, OK, I want to kiss her.
So she just started kind of relaxing after a little while and then I tried againand then she was totally into it. So it’s important to remember, too, even if you make the move and she doesn’treciprocate and kiss you back, as long as you remain calm,you don’t act all affected and say, “Hey! What’s wrong? Why didn’t youkiss me? I thought you liked me. au ugh!” As long as you don’t do that, then she’s actually going to like you more because she sees you as a man who goes for what she wants and shefeels desired by you. And a man’s desire is highly intoxicating for a woman. So she doesn’t kiss you back? Be cool, remain calm and try again a little bit later. But to get to that first kiss, there needs to be some touching along the way throughout the date. So the next mistake that most guys make is they don’t touch right away.
I’m not saying they’ll really touch a guy and have your hands all over her and hold hands with her right away. That’s a little too soon. But break the touch barrier as soon as you can, which is usually when you first meet her with a hug and a kiss on the cheek. And then I usually say,”All right, let’s go.” And we start walking arm in arm. That way we’re walking to the first venue the way a couple would walk together. But it’s not too intimate too soon. It’s not like holding hands. That would be a little too much. I usually grab her hand when we’re going from the first to the second venue or second to the third venue, especially when we’re crossing the street. I just grab her hand, we start walking, and then I notice that she keep holding my hand once we get to the other side? In fact, that’s a really good sign.
If she’s holding hands with you, especially if she turns like this, that’s almost always a good indicator that she wants you to kiss her. But the point is, don’t be afraid to touch her a little bit throughout the date. And I created a whole video on the best ways to touch a woman that actually can turn her on. And we’ll never seem weird or creepy as long as you do it the right way that I teach you in this video. So I’ll put a link to that video down in the description and at the end of this video, make sure to watch it next. Probably one of the biggest mistakes that guys make on a date is talking about themselves too much. I hear women complaining about thisall the time for a few reasons. Number one, if you keep talking about yourself, she knows everything about you. You’re no longer a mystery. And if you’re not the exact category of the type of man that she wants, then she’s probably not going to go on a second date with you becausethere’s nothing else to figure out.
And second, it’s just kind of boring to listen to somebody that you don’treally know that well, talk about themselves forever,because honestly, on a first date, you don’t care about the other person all that much. But guess who you do care about? Yourself. Which is why you’re talking about yourself so much. So get her to open up. Get her to talk about herself, I know it’s kind of contradictorybecause I just said you don’t care about other people as much as you care about yourself, but try to really listen. Don’t think about what you’re going to say, because that puts you all up in your head and she can feel that you’re not really connecting there with her. Instead, be present, feel your bodyand listen to every word she says. If you can do that, even if she’s talking and talking and talking, she’s going to feel a connection with you and she’s going to feel like youreally listen and care about her.
And that’s why you should also play laser tag or do fun things on the date. That way, you don’t always haveto be talking the entire time. Remember the point of a date. Number one is to get to know each other to see if there’s a compatibility or not. And number two is to have fun. So that means the conversation should be fun. It shouldn’t be too serious. It should definitely not be likean interview that will bore her to death. So to help you out. If you see a woman walking downthe street or at a coffee shop. So you know exactly how to approach her and you know exactly what to say so that you can get a phone number and get a date with her.
